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Topic: Poll: childhood sexual experimentation

Daphne started this discussion 5.1 years ago #2,750

Given the recent posts on the subject I'd be interested to see how many people went through the experience and the effects it had on them. Were they with family members, friends or animals and how did you deal with any associated guilt or shame, if any?

I've looked into this a bit and there seem to be mixed feelings on the subject.

Ailonna joined in and replied with this 5.1 years ago, 24 minutes later[^] [v] #0

sister, and other kids younger than me, and friends, a dog, I dealt very well, no shame.

What about you? If you already mentioned as much point me in the direction.

Sifter joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 1 hour after the original post[^] [v] #0

Brother and family friends, some older than me by a couple of years, one younger by a couple of years. Some shame at the time, none as an adult.

Jasper joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 15 minutes later, 2 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

it happens, in one way or another, there are as many different instances of it as there are people in this world, that can apply to anything in your life..... i say if you are healthy now, there is nothing to worry about....just a thing that happened/happens, as you are a thing that happens in the universe.

Daphne (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Friends, dog. Huge amount of shame, but not about the friends. I know that's normal.

Sifter replied with this 5 years ago, 12 minutes later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

(Citing a deleted or non-existent reply.)
If you found out that 10% of the population had done this, would it help? What about 2%, or 20%, or 50%? We'll probably never know, because it's not the sort of thing many people discuss, but it's interesting to consider how sheer numbers sometimes have the power to make us feel 'normal' or not - and that maybe our self-judgements might not have that much to do with the quality of the act at all.

Witheld joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 7 hours later, 12 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Sis, huge shame for 3 months, sometimes comes back.

WeirdKid joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 56 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Witheld, you did not sexually experimentate. It was just an awkward touch, let it go. I think you have a strong case of OCD.

Anyways, I think mine would be labeled as abuse by many, and I still feel terrible. No positive consequences.

(Edited 2 minutes later.)

Ailonna replied with this 5 years ago, 16 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Witheld's situation is obsession. I stopped reading it's comments a while ago.

Ailonna double-posted this 5 years ago, 2 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

This is to anyone that has experienced it, what does shame feel like? After the deed was done how did it feel, and if it re-occurred, why do you think it did, and what situation were you in for it to come back (the shame, and/or feelings)?

Daphne (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 24 minutes later, 13 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

WeirdKid. What did you do?

WeirdKid joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 15 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

See: "Help me I wanna die"
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