charlie started this discussion 4.7 years ago#2,675
I am a female who had been seeing a male psychologist for sleep disorder and generalized anxiety. I have been divorced for 15 years and never dated. without realizing it, I think I fell in love with my psychologist, always looking forward to our next meeting. I became very panicked and hurt when he told me we only had 5 sessions left because his position would be changing at this particular hospital, he also told me that he never goes longer than 21 sessions with a patient because he feels there is little else he can offer them after this. I hinted at how scared I was with our termination but was too embarressed to let him know how I was feeling about him and I'm not sure that would have made a difference in how he handled our termination . I'm also a health professional and feel so stupid for letting my feelings get so strong for someone that I know is not available. I'm now on my own and feeling very depressed, full of anxiety, having difficulty working and just basically functioning. I was doing so well when I was seeing him and had made so many positive changes in my life, now I'm afraid of going down hill again. I'm not sure if I should e-mail him and let him know how I'm feeling, maybe he can help me get through this or offer me advise as to who I can see for help,or should I just try to handle this on my own, find another therapist on my own?
Daisy joined in and replied with this 4.7 years ago, 4 hours later[^][v]#0
Call him for an appointment or just to speak and tell him this. Even if he can't continue to see you, he can recommend someone based on what he knows of your situation. Regardless of his position changing and what the ideal timelines are for him, I think that he needs to help you make plans for what else you need and put you in touch with someone who can help and continue to support you.
dr-robert joined in and replied with this 4.7 years ago, 50 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#0
Anonymous D joined in and replied with this 4.7 years ago, 37 minutes later, 5 hours after the original post[^][v]#0
He should have given you the name of a new psychologist well ahead of time.
charlie (OP) replied with this 4.6 years ago, 4 days later, 4 days after the original post[^][v]#0
So I e-mailed him, and told him how I was feeling, he said he's unable to explore my feelings with me because he works in a different department, he gave me a list of psychologists that I can call. I just find this so cold,I mean to just leave me without anyone to talk to until I can get an appt. with someone. I'm feeling very hurt and disappointed.
t joined in and replied with this 4.6 years ago, 5 hours later, 4 days after the original post[^][v]#0
Wow..I am so sorry!
t double-posted this 4.6 years ago, 6 minutes later, 4 days after the original post[^][v]#0
Just please dont feel stupid...transference happens all the time..hopefully u will gt an appt asap to procesd those feelings with a therapist that will be commited to you
charlie (OP) replied with this 4.6 years ago, 8 hours later, 4 days after the original post[^][v]#0
Thanks for saying that, I am feeling embarrassed, and of course keep dwelling on how stupid he must think I am.
t replied with this 4.6 years ago, 15 hours later, 5 days after the original post[^][v]#0
Dont feel that way. I have been through the same thibg if he is any good at what he does he will kbow rhat it happens all the time