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Topic: Pissed

Jennifer started this discussion 5 years ago #2,558

I'm so pissed at my friend right now. At 3:30 in the morning my drunk off her ass friend knocks on my door and introduces me to her new "friend". I think she just wanted to play with the kittens but she brought this guy over. She was plastered and he said he was drunk but he was stone cold sober. He kept talking in that smooth deep voice and saying things with double meanings and he had that look in his eye. I can't describe the look but its a preditory look. The things he said outright clear as day, she so innocently dismissed. Then he said something about her trying to pawn him off on her friend, me. And she said that I'm not a prostitute and it wasn't like she was saying I'm not a prostitute but like she was saying, its cool, she'll fuck you. I was in disbelief that she would ever even think to say something like that that I didn't respond. Then he laughs and says to her, "Why are you tryin me like that." Then he says to me, "Why are you letting her try you like that?" I didn't know what to say cause my mind is just fuckin blown so I didn't say anything. They go on with their conversation nonsense and I eventually tell them they gotta go. So they go, he leaves, and she comes back and feeds the cats. Drunk off her ass, loud, and I'm trying not to be hard on her because she's drunk and doesn't realize what she's saying and doing and probably won't remember it in the morning, when I will totally blast her a new asshole. Then she starts saying this really insulting shit. Like I would kill her cat so she would take the two that are staying at my door. And that it wasn't because I cared enough to take care of the cats that they stick around but because I got lucky. Like if they had a better option they would go somewhere else. So, I'm thinking is that how this bitch feels about me? Then she starts saying I'm weird but she loves me for it and starts getting all lovey dovey and I told her to go home. Why do I have to have these naive yet cocky as fuck friends who make you want to push them down the fucking stairs? I asked her when she was feeding the cats if she actually saw the bartender pour his alcohol into his glass and see him drink it, she said no. I could slap her for being so fucking retarded. She's telling me that he was flirting with her and she was telling him she has a boyfriend and how she wouldn't fuck him. She doesn't realize that her fly is wide fucking open.

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shh joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later[^] [v] #0

Oh Jen, I would be so naffed off too... I have an article somewhere (if I can find it), that basically says, that when we're in a not so good place emotionally or mentally, we attract friends that are in a not so good place too, that function by abusing whatever they perceive our weaknesses to be. And when we go to therapy or do some kind of self-development work, they are the first people to drop us, or they get angry with us, cos they can no longer get their selfish needs met by us, but we have to let them go, and know that when we set good boundaries, both for ourselves and others, we will attract new friends who are also in a better place have more self-respect and respect for us, who can respect those boundaries we have set.

Don't know if that makes any sense Jen?

Sifter joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 4 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

She sounds like she's looking for a fight from any direction without even knowing it.

Mekay joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 2 hours later, 6 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Hey Jen it sounds like your anger is care based.
You care about your friend and want more for her
and you are baffled by her self destructive
stupidity.

It also hurts, because you are concerned and even
being sensitive about her feelings (not blatantly
insulting her or tellin gher she is wrong)

All the while she is degrading you and insulting you.
It sounds like she wanted to use you to make herself feel better.
Calling you weird ect...

She obviously has low self worth by getting mixed up with this guy,
and if she can convince you that you're shit.. maybe she can convince herself
that at least she is better than someone.

Not weird.. fuck according to her you're too weird for the cats!!
They are just there so you can feed them.

Crap. She doesn't believe any of that.
It's almost like she was using you as a punching bag to me.

You seriously deserve more than that.
I know she is your friend.. but that is unacceptable treatment
drunk or not. There's no excuse talking to a friend like that.

I know you are mad.. I don't know if you're hurt.. but she is
lucky you're a toughy.. b/c that really would have hurt me.

People get real when they are drunk.. then they use their drunkenness
as an excuse to retract their statements.

utter bologna. And so what if you're "weird" at least you're different,
and have a mind, and you think for yourself.

You don't need to bring a random man over to your friends house
to use that friend to make herself look better to some random guy
she is using to feel good about herself.

Just my 2 cents..

Jennifer (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 7 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Yeah, I'm not sure how I feel about her right now. When I saw her this morning she had a friend over and she knows I'm not gonna bitch at her in front of her friends. I do care about her. She's one of those people that feels deeply. Like, she feels so deep that it amazes me sometimes watching her. Most of the time she is very generous, sensitive, and caring to a shocking degree. She also got a new job where she's making new friends. It feels like maybe I was just a temporary person to hang out with until she found something better. I mean, that's basically what she said to me last night. Maybe she thinks I was lucky to have her around. And, yeah, for a while I was cause usually she's a great person. I also told her a few days ago that I was gonna move so I could take care of the cats but its not like I'm abandoning her or anything, plus she has all these new friends who are obviously less weird than me. She seems jealous of the cats too, like why didn't they pick her instead of me. But, for real, fuck her. I don't have the energy for this bullshit drama. If she thinks I'm so damn weird she can stay the fuck away from me. About the guy, I really don't even care anymore. She's a grown woman and if she wants to act like an idiot around men then that's her problem.
Oh, and usually I take pride in my weirdness, it makes me unique, but it sounded more like she was saying I'm not right. Like there was something off about me. She's right about that but it's not like she's all that normal either. I mean, who does what she did last night?

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Jennifer (OP) double-posted this 5 years ago, 25 minutes later, 8 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

She and her friend are swimming and she comes over and knocks on my door and says the cats need a snack like everything is all cool. She was alone so I just flat out asked her why she said some of the stuff she said. She originally tried to blow it off like it was a joke, but I kept listing things she said and did and she said she doesn't even remember it. She said she had some coke last night. She had this look of guilt on her face and she starts saying she's sorry she's sorry. She comes up and gives me a hug and says that I know she's not really like that. So I asked her why is she being so self destructive right now. I asked her if she even knew how self destructive she was being. She said yes, but she didn't know why. She said that she shouldn't have done that stuff last night. I told her, you know, he could have totally raped you last night and you would never even know about it. She said, yeah. I'm glad she apologized and all that but I am still pissed off enough at her to slap her.

Mekay replied with this 5 years ago, 7 hours later, 15 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

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Jen it seems like you are really hurt over this..
and that she tapped into some insecurity.

I have been there.. feeling like the "temporary" friend
or the friend to "make me feel better about myself"
friend.

She can be caring all day.. but if she doesn't recognize that your
friendship is "kind of a big deal" ;p
then she isn't deserving of it.

I am not saying drop her..
I am saying she has tapped into some insecurities.. that you may
have about yourself deep down.

And they are totally not true.
If anything SHE should feel lucky

Jennifer (OP) replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Well, she came over tonight and apologized some more. She said she felt really bad about it. I ragged on her a little but for the most part I dropped it. She's drunk again anyway and I'm not her mother.
And Mekay, if someone said some of that shit to you wouldn't it make you feel a little insecure?

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Mekay replied with this 5 years ago, 3 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

(Citing a deleted or non-existent reply.)
Yea. I was relating to you.


> Jen it seems like you are really hurt over this..
> and that she tapped into some insecurity.
>
> I have been there.. feeling like the "temporary" friend
> or the friend to "make me feel better about myself"
> friend.

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Mekay double-posted this 5 years ago, 2 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

I was validating your insecurity..
and really feeling it.

Because I know exactly what that feels like.
It sucks.

Ailonna joined in and replied with this 5 years ago, 15 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

I HAVE A HANKERIN' FOR SOME TACOS ALL THE SUDDEN!

Mekay replied with this 5 years ago, 4 minutes later, 17 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

(Citing a deleted or non-existent reply.)
I have a hankerin' for dark chocolate.

yea it was corny.

I got skillz.

(Edited 3 minutes later.)

Ailonna replied with this 5 years ago, 1 hour later, 18 hours after the original post[^] [v] #0

Man, lol, that was bad, but I actually smirked from that comment.

By the way, total accident that it was all in caps. My hankerin' isn't bad enough for me to pretend to yell.
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